Inappropriate Wedding Traditions in Kurdistan

Jin ba Jina

It was agreed between the two families that our daughter would marry your son on condition that your daughter marries our son. They did not ask if the girls accepted the marriage. They bought their gold and clothes and set both weddings on the same day. They would designate a place where they would exchange their brides.

Barbaha

The girls that have been married in the way of Jin ba Jina. (They would marry on the same day)

"Amin is the Barbaha of Khazal."

Giving girls to wives

Sometimes a father exchanged his daughter, or the daughter for her sister. Or the household from which the girl was taken would ask for a girl, otherwise, they would not agree on the marriage.

It has been an unfitting tradition, and if one side's matrimonial life failed, the other side should divorce, too.

Jin Halgrtn

A boy who agreed with his beloved girl to get married without their family's blessing.

Radu Kawtn

When a girl marries her beloved boy without her family's permission. Often there was no consultation and there were big problems between two tribes or families; even sometimes there was bloodshed. Especially if a married woman did this, they would pay blood money to her husband, who would divorce her for a coin or a stick to humiliate her, and sometimes they would kill her.

Oral narrative:

#A very beautiful woman goes to a nobleman whose husband divorces her on a basket of foam and the nobleman because of his love and to embarrass the ex-husband of his wife, bought a lot of gold for her.

# Among the old tribes, it was not a shame to go to a man as it is now. Women and girls used to say this to each other: If you are very beautiful, you should at least go with someone once.

Bar Khwen

When two tribes had problems, killed a man of each other, or took their daughters and wives, they would marry a daughter of the guilty family to the son of that family to extinguish enmity. She would have a very difficult life, and they look at her as an enemy. Even they would not accept her as their daughter-in-law after having several children. She was not allowed to go back to her father's house for years.

Gawra Bchuk

It was a tradition for the bride's family to make a condition that the groom's family who had a young daughter (even a newborn baby), would marry their son when she reached the age of thirteen or fourteen. Of course, it was just talked and often she would not agree. They often married her when she grew up.

Bn pshk

The girl who has been decided by her father and brother since childhood to marry someone.

Abduction of Girl/woman

If two tribes had a problem with each other, they would abduct each other's girls or wives to disrespect each other. In the verse "Las and Khazal", the sheikh of Arabs gets Las's cousin on the back of his horse and abducts her.

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